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Bad Guys Can be Useful

2/7/2018

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Bad Guys Can be Useful

But they shouldn’t be essential. 

‘Bad guys’.....  I use the term loosely, implies a kind of everyday negative situation/circumstance/person that shows up and that although unpleasant, sometimes can offer us focus, purpose and drive. 

This however, can only last us so long and only get us so far. What happens when the ‘bad guy’ goes away? 

We are all looking for that place to work from, for some meaning and direction in this busy confusing world and sometimes we find a place of certainty and place to ‘push off’ from in the form of a ‘bad guy’. Feeling directionless can for some people feel quite unpleasant, so having a clear obstacle in the form of a 'bad guy' to overcome might feel quite comforting at the time. 

What happens though when we place all of our focus and drive on these external factors? They change, they disappear and therefore so does our purpose, direction and focus. Once we feel we have settled into a clear direction and into something that we can push against, the 'bad guy', could just as soon be gone, leaving us in the wilderness of directionlessness once again. 
Ok, the ‘bad guys’ gone, how can this be a bad thing I hear you ask? Well if this has been your chosen, accidentally habitually trained, method of working in the past its possible we may want to seek out another ‘bad guy’ to overcome, or create one from an otherwise non-threatening scenario in order to feel a sense of direction again and thus a connection to the world around us.

This can distance us from our values
A reliance on having a ‘bad guy’ to overcome in order to find some direction, may mean that our actions are actually not in line with what matters most to us, but lie in external circumstance. When our attention is focussed on overcoming a ‘bad guy’ we may lose sight of what it is we truly care about and how we want to act. 

Internal Drive. 
We should all be aware of, or be working towards finding what it is in our lives that we genuinely value and hold dear to us. We want to work from a place that allows a sense of internal traction and direction. So that ‘bad guys’ can come and go and we can recognise them, be aware of the messages they hold, values they might illicit, but not feel we have to fight them and base our meaning and existence in this world upon them.
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Bad guys aren’t all bad.
In fact they can be a useful beacon. When observed correctly ‘bad guys’ can offer us a level of insight that we can use. If something is causing us discomfort or pain, chances are behind that pain is something we genuinely care about. A perspective shift to overcoming that ‘bad guy’ to ‘make it go away’, to a perspective of working towards the value behind that ‘bad guy’ means that even if  you over come that particular obstacle, the things that matter to you  in life are still there for you to work towards. Your direction in life becomes yours, not ‘bad guy’ dependent. 




 
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Harry P
2/9/2018 05:18:45 am

What a brilliant blog. It is discussing a very important topic in my eyes, that I can almost guarantee people are not recognising in their own worlds. I feel it is a natural response to use 'bad guys' or the negative attitudes/emotions of others to propel yourself forward. When I was reading this I found myself assessing my own path and it's very true that I can recognise negative attitudes and If they are directed toward myself then I almost want to work harder to prove that person/attitude wrong. It does make you drive yourself in the right direction and for me, I think it is just to get the satisfaction of showing that person that you can achieve something.

It must come down to the child like behaviour that we all have deep down. If someone tells you that you can't do something, you almost automatically want to go out do it. If you say to a child 'Don't touch that', then more often than not, they are going to go and touch it!

However I understand your points completely that if we are relying on these people to be able to motivate ourselves then it is a risky strategy, as once you prove one negative attitude wrong, if no others then appear, would you just level out and stop working so hard to achieve.....I would think so. That's why when you discuss working on your own true values, if you know and understand these, it does not matter what lies in your way, that motivation to achieve your goals should always be within you as you are not reliant on the 'Bad guys'!

Keep the inspirational blogs coming!!

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